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Death
Mar 5, 2006 11:12:14 GMT
Post by lovehatetragedy on Mar 5, 2006 11:12:14 GMT
Hi friends Ive come home this morning to find out that my grandma died last night. Me and my mum hadnt spoke to her for 9 years but had bumped into her now and again. We didn`t go to see her at the hospital and we have decided not to go to the funeral due to problems with other relatives. Im not feeling upset and that worries me as surely I should be? We fell out with her because she didn`t let us know that my grandad had died. Its a long story which i wont bore you with. But now all the "vultures" of the family have appeared from the woodwork. It sickness me that people dont visit or act as a family , but then as soon as someone dies they all appear and pretend to be upset and caring. i think thats my rant over now. Thanks
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Death
Mar 5, 2006 17:32:52 GMT
Post by Amy on Mar 5, 2006 17:32:52 GMT
Hey ,I'm sorry to hear about your nan My uncle died over the summer, and at first i was numb, was not upset etc, then it kind of sneaks up on you that they are gone ... *hugs* All the vultures of our family came out of the woodwork when my nans sister died a few yrs ago too ... tehyalways seem to cause trouble ... Sometimes you dont feel upset though, sometimes it takes a while to realise ... If you need to talk, u know where I am, or email me, add me to messenger etc *Hugs* take care
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Death
Mar 5, 2006 17:35:05 GMT
Post by lovehatetragedy on Mar 5, 2006 17:35:05 GMT
Hi again. My mums brother has just been over. I tried to stay upstairs out of the way for as long as possible. I dont want to get involved in all the pregnant doging and funeral plans.
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Death
Mar 5, 2006 17:37:07 GMT
Post by Amy on Mar 5, 2006 17:37:07 GMT
Yeah, i know waht u mean. How are you doing? How is your family doing?
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Death
Mar 5, 2006 18:05:46 GMT
Post by lovehatetragedy on Mar 5, 2006 18:05:46 GMT
My mum seems ok. We have had a heart to heart about family and arguements etc and she seems more calm and has justified her decisions to herself. Im alright , I have just ordered a pizza to attempt to cheer myself up.
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Death
Mar 5, 2006 18:26:25 GMT
Post by Amy on Mar 5, 2006 18:26:25 GMT
Ooh pizza sounds good Stupid diet im on LOL
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mila
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Death
Mar 7, 2006 16:49:51 GMT
Post by mila on Mar 7, 2006 16:49:51 GMT
I felt shivers down my spine as I read the first sentence, since my granny, that I am really close to, is now recovering after a cancer surgery and is supposed to start a radiation therapy sometime about next week.
anyway, back to the topic. I don't think you should be worried about not feeling upset. You weren't really close to her, from what I see. As cynical as it may sound. I've never admitted this one to anyone, but the thing is, when my grandpa died about 10 years ago, I felt the exact same way. I knew I was supposed to cry over him, and feel bad, but I didn't really. I hardly knew him. Obviously, I didn't feel too happy about him passing away, but it wasn't like... the biggest tragedy for me either. I made myself cry cause I thought that was what I was supposed to do.
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Death
Mar 7, 2006 17:06:03 GMT
Post by lizziebethuk66 on Mar 7, 2006 17:06:03 GMT
Death seems to bring out all kind of emotions, my dad died 11 years ago and this caused a problem between my sister and myself, we have never had a big arguement over anything so it came as such a shock when she shouted at me for saying something to ease my mums pain, she obviously miss understood wot i had said and was very nasty, with all the pain and emotion that i was going through i had to grit my teeth as i felt like smacking her face in and probably would have done if we hadnt been standing over my dads dead body.. we r ok with eachother now but it was devastating at the time, i almost felt as if it wasnt happening to me but watching it happen...sounds odd i know.
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Death
Mar 7, 2006 18:40:36 GMT
Post by lovehatetragedy on Mar 7, 2006 18:40:36 GMT
Thanks you for all your advice and personal stories . I still feel the same and still have not cried. Seeing my mum upset fills me with more emotion.
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